WE INTER-ARE

Breathing in, I observe the disappearance of desire.
Breathing out, I observe the disappearance of desire.

Everything comes and goes. And yet, there is no coming, no going. We live both in the phenomenal and the absolute. That which never dies is present in the wave, and in the ocean. The ocean is part of the wave. The wave is not separate from the ocean.

When we get caught in the forms of things, we are identified by the phenomenal world. When we get caught in the ocean, we are identified by the absolute, and cannot see the magnificence of all creation. We have to stop our thinking in terms of pairs of opposities, in terms of higher or lower, leftists and rightists, beggars and elitists. The old adage says, "To each his own."

And the Buddha is known to have said, "Be a light unto yourself." We can only see with our own eyes, hear with our own ears, taste with our own tongue...Our experience of life is completely unique. There is a quality of sharing in the way we experience life, however. At the same time we know that not everyone thinks the same way we do (no one really does), so in our relating we have to consider another's point of view in order to get along, in order to live peacefully with that person.

If we are caught in our identity of self, of phenomena, we will not see the beauty of our interconnectedness. If we are caught in our identity as the cosmos, as the absolute, we then will not develop our basic understanding of how to relate to the whole. Our experience needs to be our own in order for it to be real, for us to have the depth and clarity, and wisdom to love.

When we get in touch with our impermanence, the way things won't ever stay the same, can't ever stay the same, we get in touch with our true nature. If we know that what we have been basing our life upon will not last, we open our heart to something greater than what we can ever be alone. Even though we can't ever be ourselves alone.

One poem I've liked from Thay inspired by Thay's teacher, and from the Diamond Sutra:

Defiled or Immaculate, increasing or decreasing, these concepts exist only in our minds. The reality of interbeing is unsurpassed.

I have recited this verse quite often while sitting on the toilet. It has also been useful in other times of meditation as well. There is something so great and powerful in the understanding that comes through meditation, or looking deeply into oneself.

Understanding really isn't reached through thought, through grasping. Understanding comes through letting go. Understanding is the opening of the heart, the blooming of the lotus, the revealing of the Buddha Field within you. When that opening occurs, there is no more anger, no more sadness, no more regret. There is pure love, pure awakening, pure insight into the heart of reality. This understanding is unvanquishable.

Practicing meditation is simple, and needs to be simple. Sometimes we can get caught up in all the fancy words, the fancy techniques, in all the humdrum of the Dharma-World. Buddhist, Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, doesn't make much difference. Everybody has their own method, and needs to find the way all on their own. Essentially, the moment of birth and death is upon you. Your actions, your thoughts, your emotions resonate with each other. What you will, is yours. But it won't be manifest by force.

Meditation is letting go of what it is that you desire, and making space within yourself, unvailing the space within yourself. We think there is something we can add to our lives by way of demanding change. Change happens, it is our basic nature. Much more than change is our fundamental Truth, our beingness, our wholeness, our oneness. There is nothing really separate from what we are. We inter-are. All life is a part of the cosmos. The cosmos is a part of all life.